INCEST TABOO: WHY FATHERS ARE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO THEIR DAUGHTERS?| 3 SHOCKING REASONS

INCEST TABOO: WHY FATHERS ARE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO THEIR DAUGHTERS?| 3 SHOCKING REASONS

There’s always something weird about taboo relationships, especially when it’s a case of incest. Incest is a human sexual activity between family members or close relatives. An incest taboo is any traditional or cultural tenet or that forbids sexual relations between closely related persons.

Universally, all human cultures have norms that specifically reject certain close relatives from unacceptable erotic or conjugal contacts, making such relationships forbidden. 

INCEST TABOO

Typically, this type of relationships includes sexual activities in blood relation. According to Wikipedia, ‘’the incest taboo is the most widely spread of all cultural taboo, both in present and in past societies.’’[1]

Over and over again, it’s possible to hear headlines like. [2] ‘’Schoolgirl, 13, dies giving birth ‘to her dad’s baby after years of sexual abuse’’ reported by mirror.com on 30th December 2019 in Brazil. The teenage girl has airlifted to a specialist hospital in Manaus 225 miles away (363km) when she died en route.

Obviously, someone forgot to set boundaries and respect other people’s privacy.

Incest taboo cuts across every culture

The incest taboo is an enduring cancer that cuts across every society, in Aug 5, 2018, a disturbing story was published in niaraland.com about a man who allegedly had canal knowledge of his 16 -year-old daughter at Yimi village in Zuba, Gwagwalada Area Council in the FCT, Nigeria.[3]

A similar story published by allafrica.com on the 8th of July 2019 reports a father who apparently forced his daughter to have an abortion after she became pregnant for him. According to premium times, this barbaric act she said started when her father drugged her food when she was just 10 years old. Subsequently, her father habitually rapes her and eventually turned her into his sex slave.[4]

Perhaps these are just the stories that make headlines; there are numerous undiscovered cover-ups skeletons in some families and households. Despite the fact that incest taboo is universally frowned at, this disturbing phenomenon continues regardless. This makes one wonder why fathers who are supposed to symbolize stability, protection, provision, and teaching, would be the ones perpetrating such evil.

That brings us to the next bizarre question.

Incest taboo

INCEST: IS IT POSSIBLE FOR A FATHER TO BE SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO HIS DAUGHTER? 

While it is biologically possible for a father to be sexually attracted to his daughter, socially and culturally, it’s definitely wrong and shouldn’t be encouraged. But hey! Who knows what anyone is truly thinking.

Personally, I have fantasies I would dare not talk about or allow materializing for fear of the consequences. That behavior keeps me in check, it helps me set boundaries and establish rules of engagement with others.

However, just like me, it’s not totally out of the ordinary that most men admire a beautiful woman even their daughters.  Yet, as a thoughtful man, it doesn’t necessarily mean you should act on that impulse.

Even the holiest man would see a beautiful woman and think my god she is drop-dead attractive, but I don’t think he would like to jump into her panties immediately just because she is beautiful. 

Incest taboo

Therefore, the thought of fathers committing incest taboo is totally mind-boggling.

For an average man, even if the thoughts of exploiting a child’s innocence has probably crossed his mind, he’ll quickly be disgusted by it, especially when it’s a matter of incest taboo. Each one of us is potentially a Judas; of course, there is always the exception. 

We all know this because incest taboo does actually occur, when a father violates boundaries with their daughters and as bizarre as incest taboo could get, there are isolated cases where mothers abuse their sons. Yes! Mothers are also part of this double-edged sword. There are numerous stories of wives swearing they never had any suspicion that their husbands had physically or sexually abused their daughters.

Whereas, male sexuality is less branded, some mothers for whatever personal reasons contribute to incest taboo committed by their husbands.     

Jai Rodes a father of a 19-year-old daughter wrote in 2016, ‘’I get horny when my daughter wears sports bras, tight boy shorts or underwear to the gym. I get horny when she wears her string bikini, thong bikini or her g string bikini when we are at the beach or my dad’s pool’’.

Incest taboo

He further narrates how he fantasizes about having sex with his daughter in every possible way. He continued ‘’It’s hot to think about and it gets me off, I don’t feel guilty or ashamed thinking about my daughter in sexual ways. I rather jerk off thinking about doing all kinds of things to her instead of the real thing’’.

Rodes is a nobleman, he understands boundaries. That is what every man out there committing this barbaric act fails to understand. While I don’t subscribe to the idea of being philosophical about his daughter’s sexuality,  he actually suggested a solution.

WHY ARE FATHERS ATTRACTED TO THEIR DAUGHTERS?

Incest taboo

Whereas attraction is an incomprehensible notion, evolutionally speaking, there should be forces that keep people that are related from mating. Most of the time, it is quite hard to tell what actually brings people close to each other. The idea that men are moved by what they see might not totally be absurd, I’m pretty sure it doesn’t apply to everyone.

But the idea of being attracted to a child one once nurtured plays with our sense of right and wrong majorly. Maybe, I shouldn’t generalize, after all, there are fathers with conventionally good-looking daughters, but it’s actually very subjective whether they fancy their daughters as sexually attractive or not.

A responsible adult should understand when their baby matures into a woman. He should know and understand boundaries. This boundary comes in various forms; personal boundaries set by their daughters; girls are always girls, especially when growing up. They could go from not wanting you in their bathrooms to running naked across the sitting room after the bath.

As a parent such behavior shouldn’t be regarded as enticing or seducing, she’s just a child.

Incest taboo

So when it comes to the issue of a father being attracted to his daughter, it can only come down to mixture of biological, psychological and experience-based factors. It’s worth mentioning that, due to the ambiguity of the word attraction, no two people would agree on what’s attractive and what isn’t. The fact remains, people are different on how they control their sexual impulses.

Genetically our hormones give us up all the time, hormonal balance plays a big role in attraction. Testosterone, for example, boosts libido in pretty much everyone. It’s been scientifically proven that men with high levels of testosterone are more likely to be attracted to women with more feminine structures.

A loving father is not a big bag of hormones waiting to explode in his daughter, but a rational being who understands that the hug of a father to his daughter or kissing her on her head or cheek or between her eyes is merely a way of showing mercy, compassion, and love. These are all permissible, even if it is an adult girl; he should know never to cross that line set by him, his daughter and what is culturally acceptable.

According to Lindsay ‘Dodgson, “love is connected with several hormones that make us feel warm and fuzzy.’’[5] she went on to say that ‘’ dopamine is the reward hormone that is released when you do something that makes you feel good, such as spending time with loved ones and having sex. Norepinephrine is also released during the attraction, and the combination makes you feel giddy.’’

Desirability can also be associated with higher levels of serotonin, also known as the happy hormone. Physically touching someone by hugging, kissing as well as sexual contact has been shown to increase oxytocin, the love hormone.

So it makes sense that fathers who spend more time with their daughters would enjoy their company, and touching them more frequently might make their daughter feel more attracted to them. However, this shouldn’t be a reason why incest taboo flourishes.

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